Additions for Wedding Scripts

Family Vows

[Insert Name] and [Insert Name] have learned the value of family from each of you. They ask that you continue to bring the warmth and welcoming love you’ve offered up until this very moment for many more years to come.

Would the rest of [Insert Name] and [Insert Name]’s family please stand? Do you welcome [Insert Name] and [Insert Name] as daughter and son, granddaughter and grandson, brother and sister, niece and nephew, cousin and cousin, into your families? (we do)

Honoring those present and not present

We ask our honored guests assembled here to take a moment to exchange a greeting of peace. Guests turn and greet those near them.

At this time, we would like to honor those who could not be with us today. We offer a special remembrance of [Insert Names].

Although they are not here with us physically, we feel blessed they are with us in spirit on this beautiful day. We bow in silence to honor their memory. Pause for a few moments.

Honoring Family

Our celebration of the union of [Insert Name] and [Insert Name] is shared by those who have passed beyond this life. Their roles in the lives of [Insert Name] and [Insert Name] are no less remembered and honored as we savor today’s joyous moments. Join with us, then, in fond memory of all these people, and in particular with [Insert Names]. In their memory, let us be silent together.

Parents’ Blessing

(The Parents’ Blessing Module fits near the beginning of the ceremony, just after the officiant’s welcoming statements.)

OFFICIANT: This wedding is also a celebration of family. It is the blending of two families, the (Family Name)s and the (Family Name)s, separate up to this moment, but united from this day forward — blending their different traditions, strengthening the family tree. To honor this uniting of the families, (Bride) and (Groom) wish to ask their parents’ blessing.

To Parents:

(Mother’s Name & Father’s Name), do you offer this couple your goodwill? Do you welcome [Name] as a member of your family and give him/her your love and affection?

Response: We do.

(Repeat)

Child/Children Recognition

(The Child Recognition Module fits near the beginning of the ceremony, just after the officiant’s welcoming statements.)

We also today want to celebrate the other individual(s) who will be joined in this marriage, your precious son(s)/daughter(s)/children, [name(s) here]

, who complete this newly created family, united by love and caring for each other. Receive this/these young one(s) into your hearts today, wrapped in all the welcome and love you can give.

Beach Sand

[Each partner holds a small vial of beach sand…]

[Name] and [Name], even though you come to this ceremony as unique individuals, today you blend yourselves in spirit and personality to bond and strengthen the future that you will build together.

It is to symbolize this blending that you now take these containers of beach sand to mingle them together — as though pouring your separate selves inseparably into each other and becoming one.

(Partners slowly pour their sand together)

As you now pour your sand together, your lives also are this vividly joined as one. And just as each grain of this sand maintains its own space, never losing itself and yet ever losing itself amid the goodness of the whole sand — so will your marriage and your family be.

Sample wedding scripts are based, in whole or in part, on a sample ceremonies from the Humanist Society and are used with permission.

5. I, [Name], take you, [Name], to be my [spouse], to have and to hold from this day forward; for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. With my whole heart and with my earnest and complete devotion I give you my love.

6. I, [Name], do take you, [Name], To be the [spouse] of my days The friend of my life We shall bear together Whatever trouble and sorrow Life may lay upon us. And we shall share together All the good and joyful things Life may bring us With these words, I marry you And bind my life to yours.

7. I, [Name], promise before family and friends, to commit my love to you, [Name], I promise to speak truthfully and lovingly to you, to respect your individuality and encourage your fulfillment, to compassionately support you through good times and bad, and to do all that I can to nurture and strengthen the love between us, through all of life’s changes.

4. I, [Name], take you, [Name], to be no other than yourself loving what I know of you trusting what I do not yet know with respect for your integrity and faith in your love for me through all our years and in all that life may bring us.

3. Today, I join my life to yours. From this day on, I will be your partner and companion, for you are my dearest love and my best friend. I look forward to the joy we will find in each other’s separate successes, as well as our shared ones, and welcome the challenge of whatever obstacles we encounter, for I know that whatever we face, we face it together. Because your happiness is vital to me, I will help you to grow as an individual. I will also strive to be more fully myself because you deserve no less than the best of me. I pledge that I will listen to you when you speak encourage you in times of doubt, comfort you in times of sorrow, and be a refuge of strength for you in times of uncertainty. I will be faithful to you all of my days, will always be honest with you, and will cherish and adore you every moment of my life. This is my solemn vow.

1. I, [Name], promise you, [Name], that I will be your [spouse] from this day forward, to be faithful and honest in every way, to honor the faith and trust you place in me, to love and respect you in your successes and in your failures, to make you laugh and to be there when you cry, to care for you in sickness and in health, to softly kiss you when you are hurting, and to be your companion and your friend, on this journey that we make together.

2. I, [Name], take you, [Name], to be my [spouse], to love you, to cherish you, to help you and honor you, to give you comfort and understanding in whatever the future may bring, in confidence that together we are responsible for our destiny.

8. [Name], In you I have found a friend, a lover, A companion on life’s path. You have become the single most important person in my life. With you I have experienced more happiness, more love and more freedom than I’ve ever known. To you I give my strength and my weakness My beliefs, courage and my fears To you I give my past and my future, My hopes and my dreams.[Name], I promise to accept you without conditions, To love and cherish you, not only for this hour, but for all that may follow. I love you.As I stand before you now, I pledge that these are my solemn intentions.

9. I, [Name], take you, [Name], exactly as you are, to be my [spouse] and my best friend. I love what I know of you. I trust what I do not yet know. I respect you and have faith in your love for me through all our years and in all that life may bring us. I offer you this ring as an emblem of my love.

14. Before our family and friends, without reservation of any kind I say to you, [Name], I love you. I need you. I promise to unfailingly share and support your hopes and dreams and goals. I will be there for you always; when you falter I will catch you; when you are sad I will comfort you; when you laugh I will share your joy. I will grow old with you by my side. You are the joy in my life and the love in my heart. I commit myself to you today and for always. I promise to be faithful and true to you for the rest of my life.

15. Today is a culmination and a beginning. It is the ceremonial confirmation of what my heart already knows: That you are my one true love, my best friend, and the person I was meant to share my life with. Together we have only begun to experience what love truly means. Together we have only begun to live up to the ideal that is a life filled with love. In you I find my smile, my laugh, and my contentment. In you I find a caring heart and compassionate mind. In you I find trust and togetherness. In you I find a daily reminder of all that makes me feel alive. With you by my side, my life unfolds before me in a panorama of happy days and contented nights.

16. From this day forward, I pledge to live each day with your happiness as my guiding thought.I will listen to your words, your actions, and your thoughts as though they were my own because they are as much a part of me as they are you.I pledge my unwavering trust and devotion no matter what the circumstance. I will support and encourage your dreams, because your dreams are my dreams.I will open my heart, mind and soul to you, so that I may be ever worthy of the selfless love you give. From this day forward, my life is yours.

13. Spouse 1: Today, I join my life to yours. From this day on, I will be your partner and companion, for you are my dearest love and my best friend.Spouse 2: I look forward to the joy we will find in each other’s separate successes, as well as our shared ones, and welcome the challenge of whatever obstacles we encounter, for I know that whatever we face, we face it together.Spouse 1: Because your happiness is vital to me, I will help you to grow as an individual. I will also strive to be more fully myself because you deserve no less than the best of me.Spouse 2: I pledge that I will listen to you when you speak, encourage you in times of doubt, comfort you in times of sorrow, and be a refuge of strength for you in times of uncertainty.Spouse 1: I will be faithful to you all of my days, will always be honest with you, and will cherish and adore you every moment of my life.Both: This is my solemn vow.

12. [Name], today I choose to make a deeper commitment to you.It is my way of telling you that our experiences together have been so good that I want them to continue for the rest of my life.I loved you before the ceremony and I love you more because of it. You are everything I ever hoped to find in a partner.I want to spend the rest of my life with you.I give you this ring as a token that I shall love you, in all times, in all places, and in all ways, forever.

10. Today, [Name], I accept you for who you are: the wo/man I love. For the honor of your hand in marriage, I vow to be your partner in life, to make you smile when you are sad, to lift you when you are down, to rejoice and share in both your trials and successes. Your path will be my path and I promise to walk not behind or in front, but next to you, together, to face whatever is before us. I vow to remain the man that you love. This ring is a promise that I will love you in all times, all places, in all ways, forever.[Name], I take you to be my lawful wedded [spouse] on this day and everyday hereafter. I will stand by your side at every crossroads to be your shoulder to lean on, your ear to talk to and the mirror for your smile when you are doubled-over laughing. I vow to be a part of the endless love that we see for each other. I will be there for every adversary you face and every joy you experience. This ring is a promise that I will love you in all times, all places, in all ways, forever.

11. [Name], today I take you to be no other than who you are, the wo/man I fell in love with, and now you give me the honor of being able to call you my [spouse].For that honor I promise to always be there to love you and make you smile, or to comfort and protect you.And I promise, that no matter what lies in our path it will be our path, and I will stay the man you fell in love with.I give you this ring as a token that I shall love you, in all times, in all places, and in all ways, forever.

17. [Name], I used to be afraid of falling in love, of giving my heart away.How could I trust a wo/man to love me, to give to me all that I wanted to give to him/her? When I met you, I realized how much we could share together.Today I join my life with yours.Our miracle, today, lies in the path we have chosen together. I enter this marriage with you knowing that the true magic of love is not to avoid changes, but to navigate them successfully. Let us commit to the miracle of making each day work together. Respecting each other, we commit to live our lives together for all days to come. I ask you to share this world with me, for good and for ill. Be my partner and I will be yours.